Thursday 20th June 2013,

My dad, My Superstar no more

My dad my superstar1 My dad, My Superstar no more

Last ten days saw very little activity in GingerChai, the mails I received enquiring about it, reinforced the confidence and the passion I have with GingerChai and Team GingerChai. It assured me that we are not alone and the readers are equally passionate and keen about our site.

My dad passed away on October 14 after fighting bravely a loosing battle against Multiple Myeloma, a cancer of blood plasma cells for 2 years. For most us, our dad would be the first superstar in our life as we grow. So was my dad for me. My first superstar whom I looked at awe, inspiration, fun and affection. During the course of life, the dynamics of relationship changed, we had our own share of disagreements, minor fights but undercurrent of genuine mutual love, affection and warmth always remained. He was the reason for my interest in spirituality and to respect and follow mine and other’s individual thought and action process towards life.  He was the one who taught me as a child that body dies but spirit lives ever. When my brother called me to with the news of his death, my heart was overwhelmed by a sudden heaviness and stillness me but what he taught me about life and death quickly helped me regain my self. He has just left the body but his spirit shall guide me, inspire me to fulfill all his dreams he had about me.

Till the previous day of his death, he woke up at 4:30 for his meditation routine, he never complained during his 2 year battle about his pain and suffering. He was my superstar then and he became my superstar again with his positive approach to life during the battle he eventually lost in the physical abode. Love you dad, your physical presence in my life will be missed always but your memories will remain ever green to inspire me rest of my days.

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He is the lead man of GingerChai and plays the multi role of chief author, editor, business development and also of a chaiwala! (Tea maker!) He is the master brewer at Ginger Chai.

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  • Phoenixritu
    October 26, 2010 12:28:11 pm

    He will always be with you, Laxmi. Parents live through their way of bringing us up, the samskaras they impart. Many times something I say or do reminds me strongly of mine. Please accept my condolences

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    • Lakshmi Rajan
      November 16, 2010 10:26:18 am

      Thanks Ritu, I could feel his presence always around me though not physically but his thoughts reassures me.

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  • bharathi
    October 26, 2010 12:37:21 pm

    Yes, our fathers are always our superstars. deepest condolences and I am sure you will come out soon.

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  • Ruchira Shukla
    October 26, 2010 12:38:05 pm

    Lakshmi,
    Please accept my sincerest condolences. I wish there was some way we could lessen your grief. But you must take solace in the fact that he is watching you from above and will continue to guide you always. He may not be there in physical form, but he will always be there with you in spirit.
    May his soul rest in Peace and May god give you and your family the strength to face these tough times.

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  • Desert Rose
    October 26, 2010 12:51:16 pm

    Raj,
    My sincerest condolences…
    Although no words can really help to ease the loss you bear, just know that you and your family are very close in every thought and prayer.We are with you during this time of grief.

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  • Vidya Sury
    October 26, 2010 1:01:13 pm

    LR, He will always be with you in your heart. I lost my mother recently – and I don’t think I will ever get over it; even though we adjust to life and the routine, the loss is always felt, especially when parents are close. My mother was a single parent, and I did not have a father – but it is easy to imagine what a wonderful person your father is from your heartfelt words. God bless you.

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    • Lakshmi Rajan
      November 16, 2010 10:29:16 am

      Very True Vidya, life moves on but the loss is always felt how much ever we assure ourselves philosophically and practically…

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  • Alka
    October 26, 2010 1:48:46 pm

    My deepest condolences :(

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    • Lakshmi Rajan
      November 16, 2010 10:29:43 am

      Thanks Alka for standing by us always.

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  • Anney
    October 26, 2010 1:57:54 pm

    When we first open our eyes…our parents are there to shade us from all worries…our fathers are there hovering and teaching…to lose them means to lose the world…your dad knows that you love him. Celebrate his life.
    My prayers are with your family.

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    • Lakshmi Rajan
      November 16, 2010 10:30:25 am

      Thanks Anney. Celebrate his life – powerful and true!

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  • Shrinidhi Hande
    October 26, 2010 2:07:29 pm

    Sad to read. Deepest condolences and may his soul rest in peace

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  • Pallavi
    October 26, 2010 2:14:36 pm

    Parents are the best… God’s biggest blessing!!!! May his soul RIP.

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  • kavita
    October 26, 2010 2:39:01 pm

    May his soul rest in peace eternally .May God’s grace and peace be with you and your family.

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  • AK
    October 26, 2010 2:47:52 pm

    RIP

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  • Abha Midha
    October 26, 2010 2:55:51 pm

    The parental bond is one of the strongest and stays with us even we have families of our own. MY parents live nearby so am always concerned about their well being. Can imagine what a big loss it must be for you. But he was a fighter as you have described him and lived a full life. May his soul RIP and may God grant your family strength to get over his demise. Pls accept my condolences.

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    • Lakshmi Rajan
      November 16, 2010 10:46:49 am

      Thanks for the supportive message Abha.

      Reply
  • S.R.Ayyangar
    October 26, 2010 3:30:34 pm

    Parents are like pillars in a family, we all look towards them when in need, guidance and find solace. Loss of any one means a generation gone but the means of upbringing, the value inculcated by them in us always remain for ever and to pass on to the next generation will be the greatest tribute to them.

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  • Md Muddassir Shah
    October 26, 2010 5:57:24 pm

    My deepest condolences.
    May God’s strength be with you

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  • devilzangel
    October 26, 2010 7:03:46 pm

    Hey, my deepest condolences. Hope you stay strong just like your dad would want you to stay :) .

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  • Pratiksha
    October 26, 2010 7:11:54 pm

    May God bless the departed soul and provide the required strength to you and dear ones. Stay blessed.

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  • magiceye
    October 26, 2010 8:05:52 pm

    Heartfelt condolences to you and all bereaved..

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  • Chinmay
    October 26, 2010 8:37:53 pm

    May the almighty give you and your family the strength to overcome the big loss.

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  • Shilpa Garg
    October 26, 2010 9:03:14 pm

    RIP! My deepest condolences!

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  • David
    October 26, 2010 9:43:49 pm

    Accept my deepest heartfelt condolences.

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  • Anonymous
    October 26, 2010 9:57:09 pm

    sad. RIP

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  • Shas
    October 27, 2010 1:01:36 am

    My heartfelt condolences to you. May his soul rest in peace and may God grant you and your family the strength to bear the pain.

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    • Lakshmi Rajan
      November 16, 2010 10:51:55 am

      Thanks for the supportive message Shas

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  • Phil Vaughn
    October 27, 2010 9:20:07 am

    Lakshmi, I add my thoughts and sympathies to those already left by others and hope you are finding peace during this time. Looking at the picture of your father, I see peace and determination in his face. You have been blessed with a good father and an honest and loving relationship with him. What a treasure! I’m sure he felt you were his superstar just as much as he is a superstar to you. Good dads are like that.

    God bless…

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    • Lakshmi Rajan
      November 16, 2010 10:52:41 am

      Thanks for the soothing words Phil, it means a lot to me.

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  • Arunthathi Ramadhas
    October 27, 2010 10:51:06 am

    Heartfelt condolences. May God give you fortitude to bear this irreparable loss.
    Hari Om.
    “Man’s spiritual self is not actually born nor does it die, but transmigrates for the time being under the law of karma”

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  • Simran
    October 27, 2010 11:35:14 am

    Our parents are our first real life superstar and they remain so forever.
    May his soul rest in peace.

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    • Lakshmi Rajan
      November 16, 2010 10:56:51 am

      Thanks Simran for the supportive words.

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  • Rama
    October 27, 2010 1:23:09 pm

    I am really sorry to hear about your dear dad. My heartiest condolences to you and the family to bear this irreparable loss. I know it is easier said than done but this is part of our growing up as a person. I lost my dad 21 years ago but I can still feel his presence every time I debate within me about any topic before taking a decision. I think he is still around to guide me through my thought process which is an extension of the way he used to think/reason. I know it will be very hard for some time… it may make you cry about certain things… feel guilty about some… but soon you will feel better and happier for the way he brought you up, the values he gave you, for the great times you had with him and the happiness he brought to you and the family… that is what will keep you company in the years to come and give you more strength and happiness every time you think about him. May his soul rest in peace. And God bless you.

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    • Lakshmi Rajan
      November 16, 2010 10:58:30 am

      So true Rama. Thanks for the caring, kindest, supportive message. It really mean a lot to me.

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  • Mary
    October 29, 2010 2:41:04 pm

    My heartfelt condolences for you… a new friend, Mary

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    • Lakshmi Rajan
      November 16, 2010 10:59:38 am

      Thanks Mary. I always believe strangers are just friends waiting to happen and nice to have a new friend.

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  • Smitha
    October 29, 2010 6:30:55 pm

    My heartfelt condolences. Must be a difficult time for you. May he rest in peace.

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    • Lakshmi Rajan
      November 16, 2010 11:00:05 am

      thanks for the supportive message smitha.

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  • Lakshmi Rajan
    November 16, 2010 10:25:20 am

    Its one month since he left us. I wanted to thank you all for the comments and support but somehow I was not able to key in, I did not open this post itself again after I wrote it. After I wrote this post, I felt kind of relieved of my inner volcanic pressure. Since then, I always had this feeling that my dad is around me, never felt he left us. There are moments I missed his physical presence around us but then overall I felt him near by, observing us, guiding us and a protective assurance from him. Thanks everyone again. Your supportive messages means a lot.

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  • saritha
    November 16, 2010 3:30:42 pm

    My heart felt condolence to u.I know the pain of loosing the loved ones,i lost my dad at very young age.

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    • Lakshmi Rajan
      November 21, 2010 5:16:21 pm

      That’s sad to know … Thanks for the message.

      Reply
  • Sneha Divakar
    November 21, 2010 12:53:40 am

    Sorry to know that. But glad to see you have the courage to resume normally again. Keep it going. I’m sure your dad’s good will is with you.

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    • Lakshmi Rajan
      November 21, 2010 5:17:10 pm

      Thanks for the comforting message Sneha

      Reply
  • swathi
    October 30, 2011 11:23:08 pm

    ma deepest condolence to yo, even i lost my dad in tis month…remember your dad is always wit yo all the time and watching yo..

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    • Lakshmi Rajan
      October 31, 2011 3:15:51 pm

      Thanks Swathi. I know He is somewhere out there watching me and being with me … thanks again for dropping by with comforting words…

      Reply

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